{"id":381,"date":"2025-03-03T16:15:30","date_gmt":"2025-03-03T22:15:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nicoleburns.wtf\/?p=381"},"modified":"2025-03-08T12:47:57","modified_gmt":"2025-03-08T18:47:57","slug":"a-girls-girl","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nicoleburns.wtf\/?p=381","title":{"rendered":"A Girls’ Girl"},"content":{"rendered":"
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A girls\u2019 girl <\/em>is more than just a label. It\u2019s a way of moving through the world. It\u2019s about choosing your community, lifting others up, and holding each other accountable. It\u2019s about recognizing that confidence doesn\u2019t come from making others feel small, and that loyalty is about more than just words. It\u2019s about actions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, not everyone moves through the world this way. Some don’t know how to show up for others because they\u2019ve never learned how. Some are too caught up in their own insecurities, their need for validation, or their own narratives to be truly solid.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s easy to justify behavior when emotions shape reality, but the truth is simple: perspective isn\u2019t fact and insecurity isn\u2019t an excuse. Not being a girls\u2019 girl can look like outright cruelty, but sometimes it\u2019s subtle. It\u2019s watching someone cross boundaries with a friend and staying silent. It\u2019s flirting with someone\u2019s partner while still expecting others to respect your own relationships. It\u2019s creating unnecessary division, reframing valid criticism as an attack, or speaking as if your opinions are universal truths. It\u2019s building friendships through exclusion, trying to solidify your place in a group by pushing someone else out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People who operate like this often don\u2019t see themselves as the problem. Instead, they become the victim in their own retelling of events. They justify their choices because, in their minds, they aren\u2019t doing anything wrong. People who struggle with community often struggle with accountability. Instead of recognizing their own patterns, they dismiss criticism as jealousy or drama and thrive in the grey areas of social dynamics. When their actions finally catch up with them, they shift the narrative.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“They\u2019re just jealous of me.”
“I can\u2019t help how people perceive me.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Perception isn\u2019t the issue. Behavior is.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A true girls\u2019 girl makes their people feel safe. They\u2019re the person you don\u2019t have to question, the one you know won\u2019t entertain shady behavior or quietly stand by while someone speaks baldy about you. Someone who lacks that sense of solidarity creates instability in a group. They blur the lines between loyalty and manipulation. But the reality is, someone who constantly undermines their own people will eventually run out of people to manipulate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s easy to be angry when someone refuses to take accountability, rewrites the story, and creates unnecessary division. While that anger is sometimes justified, wisdom demands something more. It demands the ability to see things clearly without distorting them with our own emotions. It requires setting boundaries. It\u2019s knowing when to call something out, when to walk away, and when to let people expose themselves through their own patterns.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girls\u2019 girl, a real one, strengthens the community instead of dividing it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And those who lack that? Eventually, they\u2019re left with nothing but their own insecurities and their illusion of closeness unraveling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Funny enough, Ashley<\/a> and I didn\u2019t coordinate our posts, but they ended up with similar themes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her newest podcast episode dropped today \ud83e\udef6\ud83c\udffb<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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